I have officiated a handful of funerals but am no expert on bringing comfort to the grieving. Most pastors have a favorite scripture they like to use in the services and many will ask the family of the departed if they have a favorite scripture to use themselves. In my best, most uplifting and God-honoring services I have sought something else.
I look for the one scripture that the person best exemplified in their life. I seek out the word they lived in the flesh. For example, though I did not know her personally, I would have used Matthew 25:40 for Mother Theresa... "... Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me." The way she lived her life brought this scripture to life in a way that you could learn it by watching her, even if you'd never read that scripture.
In my own pondering about which scripture I live out myself (and I'm not sure yet) I have embraced a new concept of prayer. There are many kinds of prayer and several purposes for them. Some prayers are almost entirely functional - like blessings over meals. Others are more formative in nature. I believe the Lord's prayer was intended to be more like this. Other prayers, for heading and deliverance for example, may be a little bit of both.
I am starting to believe though, that there may be one prayer each of us was born to pray. Something unique to us, that no one else can lift up in the same way. This does not mean we only pray one prayer, rather I think there is a prayer we should find and not neglect. There are several examples of these in scripture. King Solomon prays a prayer of dedication and consecration of Israel as one example. Anyone could have prayed that prayer, but it means something different when coming from the newly crowned king.
My greatest conviction regarding this one prayer comes from the life of Jesus. He prayed often and with several different types of prayers. He taught others to pray. However, there is one prayer that he was truly born to pray...a prayer unique to Himself. It was not his priestly prayer from John 17, although I would recognize that as a strong possibility. No, I believe it was a very short prayer, prayer at the end of His life. "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do." With that one prayer all of time, from beginning to end was forever changed. That, I believe, was the prayer Jesus was born to pray.
Trying to hear the music in the din of many voices.
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